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On 2009-06-13 00:30:37,
ClayPage wrote this entry.
What is a Commitment?
This Week's Question: What is a Commitment?
A Commitment to Creating a Relationship
- Is there a difference between what a man believes commitment is and that of what a woman believes commitment is?
- Is there a difference between a commitment to friendship and a love relationship?
When a couple proclaims they are committed to the relationship, what is the basis for such commitment?
- Is it the emotional feeling they have at that present time?
- Is it based on a dream they hope to come true?
- Is it based on hard work and desire?
- It is mainly lustful?
Since we agree that a love relationship first starts with friendship, and that communication is key in growing that friendship, shouldn't a commitment be based on "open communication" and what does that mean?
Here are my thoughts on a commitment to communication and it is open for your comments and insights.
As a friend you must be committed to be secure in your own skin and about who you are as a person before you can really be a friend to someone else. Then sincere enough to be a best friend, a confidant, and equal partner in creating a future that meets both desires and dreams. We first start with ourselves.
You must be committed to creating a dream and the desire to share in the same dream, of creating memories for the years ahead to reflect upon that will keep a relentless and burning passion for each other alive.
You must be willing to continue to promote the trust and faith in each other to love, to cry, to embrace and to laugh as one. The shared goal must be to create a relationship not for the weak, insecure or shallow, but of strength to dance to the music of souls understanding.
As to the old adage, "We shall dance as if it is our last dance and love as no one is watching" must be a mindset and attitude that is promoted each day and cherished as the key that will advance friendship into a loving relationship.
I believe one must embrace friendship with a desire to surrender to the other without reservations or compromising one's own beliefs.
To be consumed by a desire which leads to being honest and open in our communication. It is a two way avenue requiring equal commitment to realize success in growing a friendship into more - whatever the end result may be desired.
I always wonder if someone cannot be their own best friend, how can they be a true friend or lover to someone else. We cannot be more to someone else than we are to our ownself.
Friendship is a marriage in promoting the best interest of the other, to always be there, to be supportive and to agree not to agree without regrets of spoken words made in haste - being careful of the tone of our voice and words we elect to express.
A commitment to building a relationship is a never ending journey and adventure.
When the time comes when a relationship evolves into an intimate one, the HARD work really starts at that point in growing and protecting the relationship.
So many times I believe people forget to PROTECT their relationship by showing that it is the small things that really matter.
I believe you must desire each moment to show your mate that the smallest thing mean so much:
... reaching across to caress their neck while driving
... a quick hug and a squeeze in the middle of a shopping mall
... catching an unexpected tender look and a smile from each other
... a delicate and tender kiss that seems to stop time itself
... or just the warmth of holding hands for no reason at all.
It is the small things that signifies a pure love unequaled in time. It requires a dedication to do the small things and that dedication must be protected each day as the challenges that present them daily will challenge us to forget to do the small things that really matter.
I believe one must have a relentless craving for the moments to express our love simple because it's one's pleasure to do so and not out of a desire to create a sense of obligation within the other.
One must desire to fall in deeper in love starting each morning by remembering what brings pleasure to your mate and then to repeat them with greater intensity and passion. Our thoughts first thing in the morning will fashion our entire day - thinking about the love of your life is the insurance policy that protects your relationship.
I believe one must promise to always nourish life's journey each and every day to be a romantic adventure. Always cherish the look in your mate's eyes and when you give them flowers or opening the door for them, seek to explore the depths of their soul and their yearning -- and then invite them to explore the wonderfulness of your relationship through the freedom of open communication.
I believe one must be dedicated to spending time daily thinking about their and their mate's desires and to reflect on moments when their mate will melt when slow dancing with them, and when you pull them close to you with tenderness, you desire their knees to become weak and their breathing becomes deeper as you float across the floor in unison with each other, becoming as one in flight.
What we think about, becomes our reality - and the reality of your relationship will be what you are thinking about.
Requested Participation:
Let's make a list of what else should friends be committed to when building a lasting relationship with hopes that more will evolve personally?
Open for your insights and comments. Please post your comments below.
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